When you first stumble upon dating advice one astute observation and legitimate concern would be: “Every woman is different! How the heck can this advice work on ALL women? Dating advice can’t be and shouldn’t be one size fits all. “
Absolutely true. Every woman IS different. However, there are more commonalities between two women than there are differences.
Think about it. From a physiological point of view, two women will have a lot more in common than they have differences. Psychologically,similitudes abound as well. Fight or flight, as well as many other natural responses are common to all.
Just for the sake of conversation, let’s call this the Law of Commonalities.
Now, besides the tenet of all women being different, there is another popular belief dominating our culture. There is a lot of talk about men and women being diametrically opposed in every way. Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, they say. However, if we were to take only but one step back and look at the bigger picture, we would notice that the Law of Commonalities applies again. Whether man or woman, every human being wants to love and be loved, is drawn to pleasure and flees pain and has a sense of belonging.
It then stands to reason that, in most part, whatever makes one sex happy will probably be met with joy from the other sex as well. So guys, stop scratching your heads wondering what to do and how to act around a lady. It’s not that complicated (most of the time). Try improving at these few things with your buddies and you’ll immediately be better with women.
Be a great Entertainer
A good entertainer doesn’t simply read a script to a crowd or an audience. He adjusts. He can improvise and tailor his material to his audience. He has many tricks up his sleeve. In other words, he is versatile.
By being sociable and being able to relate and befriend various people of different backgrounds you will develop a sense of what people usually like and usually dislike, what comments are appropriate and what comments are inappropriate. Let’s call this skill calibration, the ability to accurately measure temperature/vibe (of a crowd or of a person). I’m not talking about becoming a mind reader, just being astute. Let’s put it this way: your buddies may not have the same sense of humor as that girl you’re on a date with, but having honed your entertainer skills, you’ll know how to adjust accordingly.
Everybody loves a good laugh. Laughter alleviates tension and elevates the mood. Not one human being on Earth dislikes laughter. People may have different senses of humor, but humor itself is Universal. Everyone loves to be around a funny person. Men AND women.
Now this doesn’t mean you have to overdo it. Become familiar with the different styles of humor: sarcasm, slapstick, satirical, and so on. Change it up too. Like an MAMA fighter, master different approaches.
Oh, and being charming won’t hurt.
Learn to Gain Situational Status
Status is ATTRACTIVE.. Not only to women, but to men as well. People with status get treated differently. They waltz through situations not having to be subjected to the same rules as everyone else. Basically, it comes with benefits. However, it’s important to understand that status is situational/relative most of the time. A rock star may be idealized in his home town, but can be completely unknown to some in other parts of the world, for instance. His status is high in one context, but non existent in another. Another example would be of the guy who may be super popular in one crowd, but not in another.
Being able to gain status/power in a multitude of situations (being politically savvy) is a skill that can take you pretty far in life. Integrating a group, identifying the Alpha male and adopting the proper behavior is a ritual you should be doing on a regular basis. Everybody loves being around someone of high standing.
Women might not want to admit it, but they secretly want/expect The Man to lead in a multitude of situations. Maybe not EVERY situation, but most. You are supposed to have your shit together. You are supposed to know what you want. You are also supposed to know how to get things done.
Due to time restraints, I’m gonna have to simplify my thoughts. Essentially, in order to perform most tasks in our daily lives or reach goals we’ve set, we need resources. Those resources can be TIME, MONEY, MATERIALS, KNOWLEDGE, even PEOPLE.
When you’re at your friend’s house watching football, be the guy who has the number for pizza. When you’re deciding on which bar to go to, be the guy that can make a phone call and have everyone in without a problem. When you’re deciding where to go for dinner with a lady, be the guy that can call up his connection to have a table at that posh restaurant you like.
Networking has cool perks. You’re always in the loop. You know who the Big Fish are. But in addition to knowing who they are, know what makes them so influential, what they have to offer that attracts so many. Don’t imitate them, just observe. Take what you like, discard what you don’t .
Like I said, it is absolutely true that every woman is different and has her own personality. But some things transcend personality. Work on these skills on a regular basis and you’ll be more interesting, more valuable and more versatile.
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